If you have lost a parent due to sickness, violence or any other reason, you probably feel a sense of loss. You may also feel lost and alone. You don’t know where to turn for help, so maybe you withdraw into your own little world. Here is a story of a teen in Detroit who lost his mom at 13 and what he is doing to help others around him going through the same pain.
If you are grieving the loss of a parent, please don’t keep that inside you. I doubt the parent you lost would want that for you. It’s natural to feel pain, to be confused and to not know where to turn. And we all grieve in our own way. Sometimes we need some time to ourselves just to wrap our head around what has happened and to think about where we go from here.
But, please don’t shut yourself off from the world completely and definitely not for a long period of time. That won’t be a healthy thing for you and don’t you think the parent who just passed would want the best for you? If you need to visit with someone, there are many places where you can seek help. If you have a surviving parent and can talk to them, they probably want to talk to you but aren’t sure how. If you can, let them know how you are feeling. You are both in pain and can be there for each other. This also includes siblings if you have any.
I would also encourage talking with a school counselor or therapist. These are people who have gone to college to learn how to help you. They have learned coping skills and know of other ‘tools’ which can help you through the grieving process and can help you sort out and manage the feelings you have right now.
There may be a support group in your area which could provide additional guidance and support. Often, it helps to know there are other people like you going through the same thing. Take DeAngelo for instance. He knows what you are going through because he went through the same thing himself. Now, he is helping others in his community.
One place I know you can reach out to is the ‘Boys Town National Hotline’. They have specially trained counselors who are able to talk to you on a variety of subjects. You can check them out at https://www.boystown.org/hotline/Pages/default.aspx.
Just know that you don’t have to go through this alone! There are people who care. All you have to do is reach out to them and they will be there to help. Do it for the parent you lost, do it for you!