I just watched an episode of ‘Ransom’ on TV which I had DVR’d. Usually, there is someone who has been kidnapped and the team at CriRes works hard to negotiate and get the person back safe and sound. However, this wasn’t the usual type of episode. This particular show was about a man who was manipulating teens and young adults into killing themselves.
I want desperately to write a great blog post about this episode. But, right now I’m not sure what I’m going to write. No pressure here, right! The truth is, all over the world there are depressed people who feel all alone. They range in age, ethnicity, and background. They feel left out, bullied and like no one cares. They just want to feel special to someone, even if it’s just for a little while. They don’t understand how special they really are and the reason for this can vary, and usually, it has nothing to do with them. A lot of times it has to do with the people around them and the situation they find themselves in.
Maybe their parents are addicts or are trying the best they can working three jobs so they don’t have time to spend with their kids. Maybe they feel different than other kids in their class and don’t have many friends. It could be they are shy and don’t make friends easily. There are many different reasons why a teen may feel lost and alone.
This is how these ‘manipulators’ are able to befriend many of these lost souls. They make you feel special so they can influence or control you. They may have a cause they want you to join. However, usually, the cause is a violent, hateful one. In this ‘Ransom’ episode, the guy just wanted to prove that he could build a computer program that would get people to submit to him and do what he wanted them to do. They had to go through several different levels and prove to him that they were willing to do what he asked, including taking their own life at the end.
There are many different psychological profiles that could be given to people who do something like this. For this blog post, let’s just say they are a little unhinged and very unstable. Some may be radical, but all are controlling. They are definitely selfish and they are using you.
You are special, you matter. You may not feel that way now. Everyone has their moments of doubt, times when they don’t feel special or cared about. Have I felt that way? Sure, I have!! I had boyfriends’ breakup with me. Heck, I’m divorced. I had someone who I thought was a friend use me and not have my back. I have had people lie about me and throw me under a bus for no reason. People are mean, people are insecure and they take it out on others.
Don’t put your self-worth into the hands of others, especially people who don’t really care. You are the only one who can build up your self-esteem instead of letting people use you for their own cause, their own selfishness. You don’t have to submit to a lunatic, like the guy portrayed on the TV show or an extremist to feel like you are part of something. There are so many positive groups and activities you can become involved in. You can volunteer at hospitals, animal shelters, at homeless shelters or many other places. You can be part of something very positive. You are worth that!
For not knowing what to write, I’ve probably written enough for this post. Just know that someone out there cares, maybe you just haven’t found them yet. But, you don’t have to find someone who will use you and only pretend to care. Hold your head high and be willing to find your posse no matter how long it takes. I know someone who just found her best friends and she is in her 30’s. It was worth the wait as she is very happy and they are doing good in the world together. And please, always know that I care.